The Compulsive Sociopath…

25 Aug

Pathological lying (Pseudologia Fantastica or Mythomania) is when an individual who habitually tells lies so exaggerated or bizarre they are suggestive of mental disorder. “Pathological Liar” is a term usually used to refer to a compulsive liar. These individuals lie out of habit and know no other way. Compulsive liars are generally harmless because their lying does not come with a hidden agenda. However, a Sociopath does.

A Sociopath is a person who’s lying is focused. They are goal-oriented and will charm and manipulate others as much as they can with no remorse for what troubles they may cause along the way.

I’ve known a few compulsive liars in my time, as well as some sociopaths. It’s very sad that these individuals had to be this way, but over the years I’ve come to learn more and more that they just can’t help it.

Now, my confusion is what to call someone who is a fusion of both? A compulsive sociopath??

I know two people who fall into this category. One fell a little further down the well than the other, but both have caused quite a bit of damage along the way and have very nasty track records. The one thing that blows my mind though is the fact that they do not even know it. Since it’s something they cannot seem to help, they see it as correct and totally normal. In fact, they may not even understand what a lie truly is.

I used to really despise these people…I really did. But then I came to a realization; Why waste my time, my energy, my precious thoughts on people who can’t help but be crazy? People who were born mentally disturbed and in all seriousness, cannot be helped? Sure, the occasional rumor I may hear being spread about me and others may be a little aggravating, but in the end I know that no matter what, I’m sane. I’m tooootally sane and healthy and I don’t need a security blanket of lies to keep me warm at night. So now, instead of despising these people, I pity them and look at them the same way I would a wounded bird in a yard surrounded by hungry cats.

So sad…

-Emily Sixx

Originally posted on Blogspot:  http://emilysixx.blogspot.com/2011/08/compulsive-sociopath.html

2 Responses to “The Compulsive Sociopath…”

  1. Unrelenting Amee September 26, 2011 at 2:17 pm #

    I agree that the most compulsive manipulators are completely oblivious, and consider themselves to reasonable, even justified. The problem is, they hold themselves to a different standard than society, which has Anti-social implications.

    I’ve known people who are Borderline and Narcissistic– it’s a defining trait of the disorder that they believe themselves to be blameless. They have no “self,” and exclusively base their esteem on others. Thus, they need to maintain the delusion at all times that they are superior and perfect. They are incapable of admitting the smallest fault– if they do, it’s calculated to gain sympathy or control, and not genuine. That’s why they are able to behave in such blatantly cruel ways, because are detached from any sense of empathy or personal responsibility for their actions. They blame society, often have a martyr complex, or simply deflect their own shame onto whoever is in the line of fire. They are truly frightening individuals. It can sometimes take a long time to recognize the pattern, because they are such gifted charmers and often appear very loyal.

    The best way to deal with these kinds of people is to detach yourself. I would say, don’t pity these people. They thrive on it, and will seek you out if they smell it. Just do your best to stay away from them and keep your personal boundaries on high alert if you can’t avoid or sever the relationship. Know that these people do nothing without an agenda.

    It’s easy to rationalize that if they aren’t aware of their motives, it can’t be that bad. But the scary truth is that this disconnect also means that there are no limits to how far they will exploit others for their own needs. If they use you, they will rationalize that you are at fault for trusting them. They assume if you had the chance, you would exploit them too– so they do it first.

    • emilysixxrants September 28, 2011 at 1:29 pm #

      I could not have said it better myself. Thanks for commenting! 🙂

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